My boyfriend and I have been having some troubles recently and yesterday, he finally gave me an ultimatum – to stop watching my favourite show ‘Vampire Diaries’, or he’d leave me. I really do love him, and we hope to get married soon, so of course he is, without a doubt, much more important to me than a TV show. But really, how can he possibly be jealous of a character on TV.
I can see how it could have been a bit annoying that I had a picture of the vampire as my screensaver, but really that’s hardly reason to feel THAT insecure.
Yes, I know I could just stop watching the show, but I really do love to watch it and can’t understand why it has to be a choice. All my girlfriends watch the show too and we love to discuss it after. Yes, the guy on the show is incredibly good looking, but it’s not just about that – it’s also his character in the series that makes it so interesting to watch. I really don’t want to lose the love of my life, but I just can’t believe that a TV show can come between our relationship. Just don’t know what’s right – giving up the show, or risking upsetting my man enough to leave?
Vampire Watcher
Dubai
February 20, 2012 at 8:31 am
lol, if you where a smoker and he asked you to quit then I would agree with him, however its a TV PROGRAM for goodness sake ! None of the story line could ever take place in reality, tell him to get over himself.
February 20, 2012 at 8:39 am
Really? When did the 7days become an advice column for silly girl problems? Grow up and get real!
February 20, 2012 at 10:12 am
His insecurity will only get worse if you get married, he obviously has trust issues, and if he acts like this with a character on a TV show, how will he act if he sees you sharing a joke with a old school friend who just happens to be male? I say it’s time to dump the chump and find yourself a real man to take care of you before you find yourself tied down in a sham of a marriage.
February 20, 2012 at 10:21 am
LOL!!
Are you serious!!! Where do I begin???
Are you both SEVEN years old!!
A: If he says, ‘stop watching of I am leaving’ LET HIM! its just too pathetic!!
B: if you need to write to a local newspaper for advice, He should leave you for having no backbone!
you both belong together…….
Get real!!!!!
February 20, 2012 at 10:27 am
Girl, if he’s telling you what shows to watch and throwing around ultimatums of “breaking-up” so flippantly, he’s NOT the one. Today it’s a TV-show, tomorrow he’ll be telling you who your friends should be and who you can or cannot talk to.
I’m all for partners being able to share their opinions – like he could tell you it upsets him when you watch the show, and then be man enough to leave the choice up to you – whether you want to continue watching the show and let him deal with it, or whether you don’t want him to be upset and stop watching it – the choice should be yours.
The fact that he’s giving you ultimatums over a silly TV show (of all things!) is already a recipe for disaster. He needs to clean up his act, grow up or get lost!
(sorry for being a bit fiesty about this, but i believe people who are control-freaks should start with controlling themselves first – if he’s so upset about a TV show, he needs to ask himself why, and then proceed to deal with it, instead of trying to control you or the situation)
February 20, 2012 at 10:54 am
OMG are you pertaining to “Damon Salvatore” of Vampire Diaries? I agree with you he is so cute
Or maybe your boyfriend is a werewolf?
February 21, 2012 at 9:57 am
HAHAHHAHAHA… YOU’RE RIGHT MAYBE YOUR BOYFRIEND IS THE WEREWOLF.. THAT’S WHY HE GETS ANGRY…
February 22, 2012 at 8:15 am
I had a feeling it was Damon too. The werewolf one was a good one. LOL Twilight ALL OVER AGAIN. HAHA
February 20, 2012 at 11:35 am
These shows are no good as they unknowingly have an impact on your mind. For e.g. you might develop fear of the dark or some people might scare you. When such shows are having such a negative impact on your life, it is better to let go. What is important is that YOU LOVE EACH OTHER. Get on with your life and over the years, understanding will develop and maybe after some years, it might not matter to him so much whether you watch or do not watch.
February 20, 2012 at 12:32 pm
Love means sacrifice and compromise…but the objection in question raises alarm bells for the future of what may be in store for you…
February 20, 2012 at 2:16 pm
Run run…….as fast as you can!!!
February 20, 2012 at 3:39 pm
Pathetic guy! I don’t think he needs to make an issue out of it, it’s just a series show that you love to watch. What more if it’s serious like you need to continue helping out your family, if he ask you to stop, will you do it? This only proves how petty can he get and how shallow his love for you that he can’t understand your simple happiness. Grow up dude!
February 20, 2012 at 3:59 pm
my advice:
stop watching until you get married. In the meantime, you can do that behind his back: record it, get DVD, etc…
After you get married, he wouldn’t even care what you watch as long as you leave him alone
February 20, 2012 at 4:13 pm
First of all its just a TV show, and second top listening to the idiots here. Seems like the answer to every of relationship’s problems on 7days is to leave your partner. Shame on you lot!
Yes, it seems like an unreasonable ask/want but nothing is unreasonable without first inquiring as to the reason for the strange outburst. My girlfriend has an extremely annoying habit that I hate and I wish she stopped, but its one of the smaller things compared to the otehr things which she is great at and I love her for. Compromise, trust, patience and understanding are the key to any relationship and everything takes time build, and nurture.
Sit down with your partner and see what’s wrong. You might be surprised how small the issue actually turns out to be.
February 20, 2012 at 4:57 pm
Tim, totally agree with you. Things need to be talked through first – to understand where the other person is coming from.
But in this case, let’s not forget, the guy is the one throwing around threats of break-up (over a tv show at that) small, but important piece of info, don’t you think? Seems like a guy who isn’t mature enough to decide what he wants to breakup over will hardly be mature enough to talk things through intelligently.
maybe a mediator?
February 20, 2012 at 5:53 pm
Tim! Shame on who?
I was under the impression that anyone daft enough to send that letter to 7days needed a flogging!!!!
It is as daft as the day is long, which by the sounds of your comment, so are you!
February 20, 2012 at 6:31 pm
I meant to say ”Shame on people who think breaking up is the solution to everything”.
P.S – There are no rules are regulations to posting and people sending in their letters..Yes, its not an Agony Aunt column, but nevertheless, its a place where people can like to discuss their problems – societal or personal. (Not everyone is strong or even mature enough to solve problems on their own. Sometimes a second (or third or fourth on 7days) opinion goes a long way, and it would be a shame if someone ends up regretting a mistake thanks to a stupid opinion by an idiot commenting during his lunch break).
Notice the writer mentions ‘We had been having some problems recently’ without mentioning WHAT the problems were. It would be downright stupid to think the man wants to leave her ONLY because of a ‘Vampire Man’, and if he does, then I’d be the first to tell her to think about marrying such an immature person.
My only suggestion was to ask her to work it out and talk it out and dont go by people’s ideas that he is incapable of havign a relationship or a control freak etc etc. People here seem to be extremely fast at drawing conlcusions, pointing the blame and even be downright rude. Yes ‘a new one is born everyday’, and some people learn through experience but there’s no reason to be be an ***hole.
I think people should try to live by the ‘If you have nothing good to say, then you should say nothing at all’ motto. It does wonders.
Have a good day.
February 21, 2012 at 4:00 pm
Crikey!
I stand mistaken!!! Any one who can go on for as long as you have in this mail clearly has more time on their hands!
When their relationship ends, why not call her and you both can meet for coffee and exchange A: The Dribble she wrote, and B: The nonsense you wrote defending her dribble!
Match made in heaven!
When is the wedding?!??!?!
February 22, 2012 at 8:45 am
I believe you mean drivel…unless you talk about saliva running out of their mouths…
February 22, 2012 at 1:56 pm
Calm down, internet warrior.
February 22, 2012 at 2:29 pm
i agree with you Tim, but also this is a little immature and maybe they both really need to consider getting married…..
and yes break up is not the solution here… never is… talking things out is better
cheerzz
February 20, 2012 at 5:21 pm
Dear Vampire Watcher
There are two ways to look at it:
If its just a TV show today ( that you love to watch), what is he going to ask you to give up tommorw?
Or, you could look at it as, Its just a TV show, I can live without it.
The decision is really yours, Nobody can make that decision for you.
Maybe you spend too much time watching or obsessing about the show? If thats the case, take some time off and try to spend time with him, so he understands you can accomodate both him and Vampires!
- Val
February 20, 2012 at 7:29 pm
Are you serious? And, yes, the question is…how old are you guys again? If you’re teenagers, I can understand the silliness of him being jealous over a tv character, and you needing to question whether or not you should cancel your show…The reality is, he’s the one with the issues. And this shows his insecurity and probably unstableness. As some said, “run, run as fast as you can..”, sounds like a bit of a pyscho to me, but who am I to say. Maybe he just resents you watching too much tv period. I’ve not seen the show, but if he were talking about Erik in True Blood, I’d be like, “see ya, loser”! lol..just be careful if he’s acting like that over something silly..and am also hoping your letter is an big exaggeration.
February 21, 2012 at 9:04 am
So what’s next? My boyfriend didn’t lift the toilet sit up or didn’t screw back the toothpaste cap?
) grow up people!
February 21, 2012 at 4:10 pm
Yes, if it’s Eric Northman of True Blood..Bye BF! Otherwise, try to work it out. LOL
February 22, 2012 at 12:35 pm
Hi everyone,
This may be interesting as it relates to the topic & may solve all the problems in one shot.
do read !!
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See how it works, you idiots, no go back to work, i.e if you have one.
hope the solution worked for the TV duffer, & the unwanted useless psyciatrics
i am going back to the dog, its more interesting, you should do the same too.
February 23, 2012 at 9:18 am
Right on!
February 22, 2012 at 12:59 pm
I am not sure why everyone tends judge people this way.
1.we only heard her part of the story , but not his.
2.If my GF is drawling over some guy on TV, and get obsessed with some TV character then Hell Yeah I will have an issue with it
3.If they guy was drawling over some actress in a TV show, had her picture on his screen saver or mobile background….I would love to see how it feels at her end.
4.Half of the women here saying run run , deals with an even more difficult BF / Husband character but found her way to deal with it.
5.Talk to the guy , men tend to be very reasonable if you talk common sense to them….I am sure there are other things upsetting him and this is just a response.
6.@ Yorkshire…what’s with the attitude at Tim, he was kind enough to spare sometime to write what he thinks and that’s the whole purpose of this section anyway, I can see you have enough time to check the same post twice in 2 days and make two comments….if you don’t have anything good to say then I would say stay quite…..Yes I do have enough time to write this long comment bcs I get my Job done on time.
February 23, 2012 at 10:46 am
Mohammad.
Well done and thank you for these nice words. I have filed them in file 13 where I shall consider your thoughts on this subject.
To clarify file 13 is where I put everything that holds no substance, inept conversations and ridiculous comments, which strangely enough is where this story belongs!
(will use capitals for effect)
A girl writes in to a NEWSPAPER upset her boyfriend is jealous of a TV STAR, a FICTITIOUS TV STAR. This boyfriend will leave if the girl doesn’t stop romanticizing over the TV FICTITIOUS STAR.
A: Oh My……
B: Tim defended this….. Oh My…….
C: And now you….Oh My…..
Take a moment to think……………
February 23, 2012 at 5:36 pm
..I bet Vampire Watcher has more confused than she was…..
Moral of the story? : Do not seek realationship advice on a local newspaper! Especially when it invloves Vampires!
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